Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to find all of the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
I’ve always been a People Pleaser in some form or another. All the way through school I strove to get the best grades and follow the rules. As an activist I strove to always be the person “doing the right thing” even if that was unsustainable for me. In my friendship circles I wanted to be the one who made you laugh.
In September 2013 I started a course as part of the Transition Movement* called One Year in Transition. It’s about helping young people in their 20s and 30s find the work in the world that correlates with their core values. That’s easy, I thought, I’ll be a community activist and I’ll save my community and I’ll be the hero again. The problem with finding work that correlates with your core values is that you have to have a really clear understanding of what your core values are. I could have listed off a few things, but what I couldn’t identify were those raw values that really ignite my passion, the ones that were going to make my work sustainable.
Since then the question of What can I do to get more love? has flipped and it’s become What do I love? This blog is a way I can tell the story that articulates what that really is and in the meantime I’ll be focusing on questions about self-acceptance, about finding your place in a community and the subtle dynamic between personal change and the changes this can invoke around you.
Why should you care about my narcissistic ramblings? As the recently deceased Pete Seger said
The key to the future of the world is finding the optimistic stories and letting them be known.
I’ll share my story and the story of my community and see what happens. I’ll be keeping you updated and maybe it’ll inspire you to look for the thing that you love.
*The Transition Movement in a nutshell is an organisation made up of many small community groups across the world that are looking to catalyze social change at a local level. Not by pointing the finger at big authority figures. Not by grumbling; but by just getting stuff done; building community gardens, supporting small local businesses, cultivating community relationships and so on.